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A Kind of Perfect Pressure Perfect
As parents, we are about to enter a whole new world. It is probably time 7 for our daughter two years to begin after school activities. It is a late entry – and I mean that we are leaving behind his debut! Most of his friends were learning French, ballet, horseback riding, multiple musical instruments and go Brownies, additional math, gym membership or God knows what else for a year or more.
Our unique approach has been to suggest they choose an activity. "Let's see how you get the" we offered, "then maybe you can continue with it or do something else if you do not like it. "We're big believers in the boredom of being a great stimulus for creativity, so we have actively tried not to structure his time too, or pack it full of pressure to succeed. It worked very well, we think. She plays with his brother and sister, rides her bike or scooter, climb trees, dig holes, dirty, draws pictures, reads and writes and tells stories of fairies and aliens.
Many of his peers have a different experience. It starts with good intentions to allow children to experience of the variety. It ends with the children and parents under pressure to succeed. Pressure to be perfect. parents "perfect" become taxi service substitution, rushing from school to club to club and home and back, ensuring that their children do not miss out – they are always hurry. children "perfect" play the piano, recorder and flute, dancing, hiking and recite – goals they need, they need to be pushed.
These kinds of parents to set similar goals for themselves. A bigger house on a better road, a new car, vacations more expensive Friends more upscale, more parties are invited to exclusive … somewhere, somehow, life looks perfect.
It is not surprising that can not relax. And neither can their children.
Everyone is inculcated with this natural aspiration to perfection. This is part of all human experience, an echo of this moment, just after we were born, so that only "perfect" unconditional love will ensure that we will survive – not that we're providing for ourselves in any way. Traditionally, this desire has played in the religious faith – the worship a god or gods perfect. More recently, people try to meet the goals by material gain and "acquisition" of experience. And today, when we are unable to achieve these goals for ourselves, forcing us to pass the torch to our children.
Ultimately, However, the establishment and achievement of objectives in this way will never bring satisfaction. All that waiting really is a feeling underlying deception, a haunting sense of emptiness, the question: "Is this it? The truth is that perfection does not exist in the real world, so that we can never reach.
So, to paraphrase Oscar Wilde, all this effort that adults, parents, for our children, well, it a kind of pressure perfect perfect is exhausting and leaves unsatisfied. Maybe time for a little boredom would be good for parents and children.
About the Author
I am a personal and professional development coach, graphic facilitator and presentation trainer. My clients are private individuals as well as businesses and business-people.
I work with individuals and groups, helping them to be free of the constraints they place on themselves, enabling them to tap into and use their creative intuition, make better decisions, communicate more clearly, establish and maintain better people relationships and collaborate better as teams.
